Tuesday, March 8, 2011

What is it like to be almost 35 and single?

Dear friends and readers,

I have an article due, and I'd like to write about what it's really like to be unmarried and in your  mid 30s. The only problem is that it's so normal for me to be single and in my mid 30s that I don't know exactly what to write.

But I know that there are questions, and I'm ready and willing to answer them.

The people who I think have the most questions are:

1. Jewish mothers who have daughters who are in their 30s and are unmarried
2. Girls in their 20s who are scared of being in their mid 30s and unmarried
3. Married people who forgot what it's like to be single and wonder what if
4. People who are worried about their single friends in their 30s
5. Teenagers - because they are generally curious about everything
6 You?

So let's hear it. What are you questions?

Comment on this blog, email me, or tweet me @scarpetablog

And thanks for your help with the article?


Anonymous said...

I have a few single friends in their 30s. In my 20s I used to set them up with single guys all the time just in the spirit of going out and meeting someone new. Now I figure if they want to be set up they'll ask. Is this the best approach?

Anonymous said...

I have a question...when I was single I drank a lot more than I do now that I'm married. Do you drink as much now vs. your 20s?

Anonymous said...

As a 35 year old never-been-married single mom, I find that I don't really fit in anywhere socially. I can't hang out with my old friends who don't have children because their schedules are completely different and we no longer have anything in common. Then the married with children couples I meet, tend to shy away from me. I'm still a little baffled by this rejection, but it continues to occur. I'm guessing people only want to be friends with people exactly like them, meaning 3's a crowd. What do you think?

Anonymous said...

To what extremes have you gone to get a date (online, speed dating, etc.)?

Anonymous said...

biological clock concerns?

Anonymous said...

Why don't you just write about how being a single-ish woman in your 30s has ceased to have negative cultural cachet?

Anonymous said...

maybe u can discuss how social media/fb has impacted being single. Like, how one just used to hang out with people with similar lifestyles/interests and now everyone's "friends" post annoying (well, what i can only assume is annoying to non-kids people) updates on their kids.
Oh, and someone in your comment thread mentioned that the married are probably envious of the singletons. I don't think that generalization is any truer than to assume that singletons are jealous of married and/or parents.

Roselady said...

All I know is that there are so many women in this situation and don't want to be in it...How much of the problem is with men, in general, who don't want to commit? And, how much falls on the shoulders of women who give men too much in hopes that they will commit -- only to be let down? It's very frustrating for all my single girl friends...